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Coming to terms with Aging Parents

By Autumn Pointe,
May 30, 2019

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“Aging gracefully means being flexible, being open, allowing change, enjoying change and loving yourself.” ~ Wendy Whelan

When it comes to life you’ll often hear people say how fast it goes, if you have children you know this is especially true. One moment it seems like you are changing diapers and the next moment you are dropping them off at college, walking them down the aisle at their wedding, and holding children of their own. While it can be difficult to watch your kids grow up, fly out of the nest, and get lives of their own, a shift often happens later on in life. The children have to come to terms with their aging parents.

The process of becoming a decision maker for your parents can be emotionally taxing and stressful. Everyone is different including your needs, your parent’s needs, their current medical needs, and emotional health. After you’ve had time to consider your aging parent and their future, it’s important to keep certain things in mind before making a decision.

  • Does your parent have mobility issues?
  • When it comes to activities of daily living or (ADLs) does your parent need extra assistance?
  • Is your parent suffering from dementia or Alzheimer’s?
  • Does your parent have special medical needs including prescription drug administration?
  • Are you able to financially support your parent and care for them throughout the day?
  • Would you receive peace of mind knowing they were cared for by compassionate and skilled staff members 24/7?
  • Is your parent showing signs of decreased mood, irritability, and isolation?
  • Is your parent able to enjoy outings and socialized events?
  • When it comes to the proximity of a facility, how close would you like your senior parent to be to your own home, work, grandkids, etc.?
  • Is your aging parent able to cook, prepare, and clean up meals?
  • When it comes to nutrition, are the meals, snacks healthy?

While this is just a starting point of questions to ask yourself, it’s also important to recognize that aging is a normal part of life. Deciding to find an assisted living facility is a process but one that is typically done with the best intentions in mind. Remembering that someday you will be in the same position as your aging parent can help with feelings of guilt.

If your aging parent is able, involve them in the decision-making process so you are able to find an assisted living facility that fits all of your needs. Try to make peace with your decision, while it can be difficult, it can also be a relief and a positive change. Try to seek the positives, and take time for yourself to reflect upon the changes you are experiencing as well. While the relationship with your parent might change as they age, they are still your parent and you are trying to care for them as they once did for you.

Our goal at Autumn Pointe Assisted Living is to welcome you and your loved ones into our family and provide a level of care that is on par with how we would treat any of our own loved ones. All services are provided by a skilled and nurturing staff, and your happiness, comfort and security are our primary goals. Autumn Pointe has three levels of assisted care to choose from at a clean and comfortable assisted living center. We can help you choose the level of assisted living care that is right for you, and we will also make suggestions when we think that care level needs adjusted. Together, with you, we will come up with a plan to help with daily activities in order to help you keep a certain level of independence for as long as possible. To learn more about Autumn Pointe Assisted Living, please visit our website or give us a call at 402-468-4700.

 

Sources:

https://www.seniorliving.org/caregiving/managing-decision-guilt/